How to Prepare for a Sober Living Home

How to Prepare for a Sober Living Home

Deciding you need help in the form of a sober living home is a brave and admirable choice. Whether you come from a rehab or just need a structured environment, preparing for this experience is how you can make the most of it. In this blog, we have put together a comprehensive guide to help you get ready. 

If you need a safe space to stay sober, our sober living environment at The Sanctuary Recovery Foundation may be right for you. Contact us and learn how we can help. 

Understand the Purpose of a Sober Living Home

Knowing what a sober living home is can help you decide if it is the right place for you. These homes are designed to be as supportive as possible, free from substances, and surrounded by others with similar goals. They can give you structure when you are struggling to do so for yourself, help you remain accountable, and take on responsibilities fit for where you currently are in your sober journey. 

Research and Choose the Right Sober Living Home

To start, you must choose the right sober living home for you; not all of them are created equal. Some sober living environments can actually cause more stress, which is why you need to ensure you are choosing a trusted, established home like Sanctuary Foundation. When doing your research, make sure you visit the homes first and gather intel on: 

  • The cost of living there
  • Their rules 
  • Services they can offer you
  • Their accreditation 
  • Their positive reviews
  • Whether the location will work with your job

Know What to Pack

You don’t want to overpack for a sober living home as you will likely not have as much space as you would if you owned a whole house. Make sure you have all the essentials and some items for comfort. Some things to bring are:

  • Personal identification and important documents (ID, insurance card, medical records).
  • A few weeks’ worth of clothing appropriate for the climate and the home’s dress code.
  • Toiletries and personal care items.
  • Bedding if required (check with the home beforehand).
  • Medications with proper documentation.
  • A small amount of cash or a debit card for personal expenses.
  • Personal items that bring comfort, such as books, journals, or family photos.

Understand the Rules and Expectations

Every sober home will have its own rules and set expectations, which you should be clear on before moving in. These rules are usually quite serious and, if broken, could result in you losing a place to live. Some rules could be curfews, chores, group meetings, and visitor restrictions. 

You want to understand all rules and ask as many questions as possible that relate to your lifestyle. For example, if you have a child who you drive to late after-school activities, is this an exception to the curfew? If there are family events that run late, will you have to come home early or miss them? Can you spend overnights anywhere else on occasion? What do the rules look like if there is a family emergency? Etc. Avoiding surprises is essential as you don’t want to feel as if you were duped into a situation you are uncomfortable with. 

Set Personal Goals

This is the fun part of the process. You can imagine what your life will look like once you are no longer living in a sober house. What do you want that experience to be like, and how can you set goals to achieve it? Remember to make SMART goals and ask for help when needed. Some goals to achieve could be schooling, reaching a sober milestone, finding a job, or creating better relationships. You may want to bring something to track these goals and journal about them each day. 

Build a Support System

One of the best things about a sober living home is the support system you can find. A support system is crucial for success in sobriety, and if you find yourself alone, living in a sober living home can help you find people who understand what you are going through. Take advantage of all the groups offered by the sober living community and build relationships with positive people in your environment.

Plan for Financial Responsibilities

Normally, at a sober living home, you will pay a set amount of rent each week or month. Plan your finances accordingly to make sure you can afford it. Sometimes, the sober living home can help you find employment to achieve this if you are struggling. If you are unable to work, you can get help applying for disability, financial aid, or other assistance programs to cover the costs. 

Prepare for Challenges

Sober living homes can sometimes have their own challenges, and you should be prepared to face them. For example, you may feel tempted to use or not get along with one of your housemates. You may even struggle with how structured the environment is. It’s important to let someone know when you are finding things hard and think of coping strategies before you move in. How will you handle each situation? With meditation or attending extra groups? By talking to someone you trust? It is an important step to prepare for these challenges and understand that it won’t all be smooth sailing. 

Stay Committed to Your Recovery

Ultimately, the only way to succeed in a sober living home is to stick to your goals and commit yourself fully to recovery. Participating in house activities, keeping communication open, and seeking all the help offered will make this much easier. Moving into a sober living environment is the first step to a healthier, happier life; every choice you make from here on out will determine your success. 

Prepare for a Sober Living Home

Preparing for sober living houses involves planning carefully in advance, understanding where you are moving to, taking advantage of all the help, and setting reasonable, strong goals. If you do all of this, you can make the most of your time in this community and set a stable foundation for your ongoing sobriety. For more support in South Carolina, reach out to Sanctuary Foundation today. We would love to discuss how we can assist you.